Liz Cassidy, founder of Third Sigma International is a Speaker, Trainer and Executive & Performance Coach assisting clients to create specific outcomes and increase business, professional, and life results ...beyond the norm.
Growing up in the Northern Ireland troubles and with over twenty years business experience, in England and Australia, Liz brings a fresh and irreverent Irish perspective to life, the world and business.
Her hallmark, challenging and unique approach brings a fresh Irish humour to her speaking and training.
While empathetic and insightful in her coaching style; in her speaking and training Liz weaves her stories and creates an atmosphere of hilarious and often outrageous fun whilst her audience take away their own special insights.
Remember those News Years Resolutions - “We will; improve business
revenue, have a better sales quarter, cut costs; spend more time with
staff and less on paperwork; go to the gym, lose weight, stop smoking;
drink more (water) and so on….."
Some of us write down our
goals, type them up, make spreadsheets, print them in colour, and put
them on notice boards. And some of us came to the conclusion; that New
Years Resolutions (like affirmations) don’t work so why bother? After
all haven’t we got enough proof that New Years Resolutions and Goal
Setting doesn’t work, because we just did the “that was the year that
was" exercise and not a lot happened like it was supposed to. Or did it?
For
a few of us, New Years Resolutions are just not necessary because we
already have our goals clearly written out, we regularly review and
update progress, we put structures in place to hold ourselves
accountable, and we measure our performance.
So, what is the
difference between looking back on the year in December 2007 seeing a
great year, lots of achievements and growth and feeling good; or seeing
a bit of a non event, having Christmas dinner in the same house, same
conversations, same complaints, same old, same old?
The difference that makes the difference is our belief.
“If you believe you can, or believe you can’t you’re right" Often misquoted and so true.
Have
you ever set a goal, or had one set for you, and you really believed
deep down that you couldn’t do it? What happened? You were right
weren’t you?
Conversely have you ever had a goal where you knew for sure that
this was a piece of cake? Yes, and you were right again, weren’t you?
With all the experience, skills and knowledge you now have, could
you go back and achieve the first goal? Maybe, probably. With the
benefit of 20:20 hindsight what was the difference?
Take 5 minutes private time out for the next startlingly simple but powerful exercise
Look
at a simple goal you currently have – Write it down with its due date.
Study it. Now, write down all your beliefs about this one goal. List
everything positive and supportive and all the hairy beliefs as well.
Leave nothing out. Done? Good. Now look back at your behaviours in the
last month in respect of this one goal, and delete those beliefs which
have not been totally supported by your behaviours. (For example, your
goal is to run your first ever marathon in June 06. You believe you are
getting fit. You believe you are going to do it in under 4 hours. Your
behaviour is that it is 7 months away you have not yet put on your
running shoes to train! Put a line through “getting fit", and put
another line through the “under 4 hours" belief. Your behaviours do not
support your stated beliefs). Is this getting tough?
Now,
imagine Big Brother has been observing and recording your behaviours
for the last month. Write down a separate list of what Big Brother
would interpret your beliefs to be in relation to this goal from his
examination of your behaviours. Be honest, you are the only person
reading the 2 lists. (e.g. in the marathon example, “I believe I am not
capable")
Compare the two lists. These are your real beliefs as you are living
them in relation to this one goal. What are your lists telling you
about your beliefs around this particular goal? Are they supportive of
achieving the goal or limiting you and holding you back?
This
was a simple exercise related to just one goal. If you found you only
had supportive beliefs, then congratulations, you are probably well on
your way to achieving that goal. Repeat the exercise for some of the
goals you are not achieving, you may uncover a limiting belief holding
you back. If so, well done again. You are now one step closer to
achieving (or redefining) these goals also.
The lesson is that when we believe we can – we will. When we believe we can’t –we won’t. It is that simple.
This lesson applies to you, your staff, and your kids, to everyone.
You
may be wondering why one staff/team member is struggling to reach a
target you set and another is effortlessly exceeding budget, when both
appear to have the same skills etc. Limiting beliefs may be a factor.
Whilst performance management is a useful tool, it is also a blunt one.
Share this article with your team as an opening for discussions to
explore if there are limiting beliefs holding someone back.
The
great thing about beliefs is that they are just beliefs. Beliefs are
just thought forms. The most powerful belief we can have is that we
control our beliefs. We can change them at will! For those of you who
now want to argue that point and tell me that you will go to war for
your beliefs. Remember the tooth fairy? That belief fell by the wayside
with a little new knowledge and a different perspective.
Look
back into your history, how many other beliefs have you left behind
with as you acquired personal growth, new knowledge and experience?
Coming from Northern Irish Catholic stock - I attest to leaving a few
unuseful but very strong beliefs behind along the way, that’s growth.
So I repeat – the most powerful belief we can have is that we can change our beliefs.
As
you look at your unfinished goals again - examine them now in a new
light, what limiting beliefs do you have which may have held you back?
Changing
limiting beliefs can be as straightforward as speaking them aloud and
acknowledging their existence. (Note: best done in privacy)
However
for the more complex limiting beliefs Performance Coaching may be
useful. Begin it now - Start shifting limiting beliefs and achieving
your goals.
Liz Cassidy, founder of Third Sigma International is an International Speaker, Facilitator and Executive Coach, based in Brisbane, dedicated to facilitating results in the businesses, professional and personal lives of her clients. For more information http://www.thirdsigma.com.au/living_your_values_centered_life.cfm
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