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Becoming a Person of Integrity
- By Brian Tracy
- Published 09/25/2008
- Leadership
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Brian Tracy
Brian Tracy is Chairman and CEO of Brian Tracy
International, a company specializing in the training and development of
individuals and organizations.
Brian's goal is to help you achieve your personal and business goals faster and
easier than you ever imagined.
Integrity is a value, like persistence, courage
and industriousness. Even more than that, it is the value that guarantees all
the other values. You are a good person to the degree to which you live your
life consistent with the highest values that you espouse. Integrity is the
quality that locks in your values and causes you to live consistent with them.
Integrity is the foundation of character.
And character development is one of the most important activities you can
engage in. Working on your character means disciplining yourself to do more and
more of those things that a thoroughly honest person would do, under all
circumstances.
To be impeccably honest with others, you must first be impeccably honest with
yourself. You must be true to yourself. You must be true to the very best that
is in you, to the very best that you know. Only a person who is living
consistent with his or her highest values and virtues is really living a life
of integrity. And when you commit to living this kind of life, you will find
yourself continually raising your own standards, continually refining your
definition of integrity and honesty.
You can tell how high your level of integrity is by simply looking at the
things you do in your day-to-day life. You can look at your reactions and
responses to the inevitable ups and downs of life. You can observe the
behaviors you typically engage in and you will then know the person you are.
The external manifestation of high integrity is high-quality work. A person who
is totally honest with himself or herself will be someone who does, or strives
to do, excellent work on every occasion. The totally honest person recognizes,
sometimes unconsciously, that everything he or she does is a statement about
who he or she really is as a person.
When you start a little earlier, work a little harder, stay a little later and
concentrate on every detail, you are practicing integrity in your work. And
whether you know it or not, your true level of integrity is apparent and
obvious to everyone around you.
Perhaps the most important rule you will ever learn is that your life only
becomes better when you become better.
All of life is lived from the inside out. At the very core of your personality
lie your values about yourself and life in general. Your values determine the
kind of person you really are. What you believe has defined your character and
your personality. It is what you stand for, and what you wont stand for, that
tells you and the world the kind of person you have become.
Ask yourself this question: What are your five most important values in life?
Your answer will reveal an enormous amount about you. What would you pay for,
sacrifice for, suffer for and even die for? What would you stand up for, or
refuse to lie down for? What are the values that you hold most dear? Think
these questions through carefully and, when you get a chance, write down your
answers. Heres another way of asking that question. What men and women, living or
dead, do you most admire? Once you pick three or four men or women, the next
question is: Why do you admire them? What values, qualities, or virtues do they
have that you respect and look up to? Can you articulate those qualities? What
is a quality possessed by human beings in general that you most respect? This
is the starting point for determining your values. The answers to these
questions form the foundation of your character and your personality.
Once you have determined your five major values, you should now organize them
in order of importance. What is your first, most important value? What is your
second value? What is your third value? And so on. Ranking your values is one
of the very best and fastest ways to define your character.
Remember, a higher order value will always take precedence over a lower order
value. Whenever you are forced to choose between acting on one value or
another, you always choose the value that is the highest on your own personal
hierarchy.
Who you are, in your heart, is evidenced by what you do on a day-to-day basis,
especially when you are pushed into a position where you have to make a choice
between two values or alternatives. Ralph Waldo Emerson said, Guard your
integrity as a sacred thing. In study after study, the quality of integrity, or
a persons adherence to values, ranks as the number one quality sought in every
field. When it comes to determining whom they will do business with, customers
rank the honesty of a salesperson as the most important single quality. Even if
a they feel that a salespersons product, quality and price is superior,
customers will not buy from that salesperson if they feel that he or she is
lacking in honesty and character.
Likewise, integrity is the number one
quality of leadership. Integrity in leadership is expressed in terms of
constancy and consistency. It is manifested in an absolute devotion to keeping
ones word. The glue that holds all relationships together-including the
relationship between the leader and the led-is trust, and trust is based on
integrity.
Integrity is so important that functioning in our society would be impossible
without it. We could not make even a simple purchase without a high level of
confidence that the price was honest and that the change was correct. The most
successful individuals and companies in America are those with reputations of
high integrity among everyone they deal with. This level of integrity builds
the confidence that others have in them and enables them to do more business
than their competitors whose ethics may be a little shaky. Earl Nightingale
once wrote, If honesty did not exist, it would have to be invented, as it is
the surest way of getting rich. A study at Harvard University concluded that
the most valuable asset that a company has is how it is known to its customers,
its reputation.
By the same token, your greatest personal asset is the way that you are known
to your customers. It is your personal reputation for keeping your word and
fulfilling your commitments. Your integrity precedes you and affects all of
your interactions with other people. There are several things you can do to
move you more rapidly toward becoming the kind of person that you know you are
capable of becoming. The first, as I mentioned, is to decide upon your five
most important values in life. Organize them in order of priority. Then write a
brief paragraph defining what each of those values means to you. A value
combined with a definition becomes an organizing principle, a statement that
you can use to help you make better decisions. It is a measure and standard
which enables you to know how closely you are adhering to your innermost
beliefs and convictions.
The second step to developing integrity and character in yourself is to study
men and women of great character. Study the lives and stories of people like
George Washington, Abraham Lincoln, Winston Churchill, Florence Nightingale,
Susan B. Anthony and Margaret Thatcher. Study the people whose strength of
character enabled them to change their world. As you read, think about how they
would behave if they were facing the difficulties that you face.
Napoleon Hill, in his book, The Master Key to Riches, tells about how he
created an imaginary board of personal advisors made up of great figures of
history. He chose people like Napoleon, Lincoln, Jesus, and Alexander the
Great. Whenever he had to make a decision, he would relax deeply and then
imagine that the members of his advisory council were sitting at a large table
in front of him. He would then ask them what he should do to deal effectively
with a particular situation. In time, they would begin to give him answers,
observations, and insights that helped him to see more clearly and act more
effectively.
You can do the same thing. Select someone that you very much admire for their
qualities of courage, tenacity, honesty, or wisdom. Ask yourself, What would
Jesus do in my situation? or, What would Lincoln do if he were here at this
time? You will find yourself with guidance that enables you to be the very best
person that you can possible be.
The third and most important step in building your integrity has to do with
formulating your approach based on the psychology of human behavior. We know
that if you feel a particular way, you will act in a manner consistent with
that feeling. For example, if you feel happy, you will act happy. If you feel
angry, you will act angry. If you feel courageous, you will act courageously.
But we also know that you dont always start off feeling the way you want to.
However, because of the Law of Reversibility, if you act as if you had a
particular feeling, the action will generate the feeling consistent with it.
You can, in effect, act your way into feeling. You can fake it until you make
it.
You can become a superior human being by consciously acting exactly as the kind
of person that you would most like to become. If you behave like an individual
of integrity, courage, resolution, persistence and character, you will soon
create within yourself the mental structure and habits of such a person. Your
actions will become your reality. You will create a personality that is
consistent with your highest aspirations.
The more you walk, talk, and behave consistent with your highest values, the
more you will like yourself and the better you will feel about yourself. Your
self-image will improve and your level of self-acceptance will go up. You will
feel stronger, bolder, and more capable of facing any challenge.
There are three primary areas of your life where acting with integrity is crucial.
These are the three areas of greatest temptation for forsaking your integrity,
as well as the areas of greatest opportunity for building your integrity. When
you listen to your inner voice and do what you know to be the right thing in
each of these areas, you will have a sense of peace and satisfaction that will
lead you on to success and high achievement.
The first area of integrity has to do with your relationships with your family
and your friends, the people close to you. Being true to yourself means living
in truth with each person in your life. It means refusing to say or do
something that you dont believe is right. Living in truth with other people
means that you refuse to stay in any situation where you are unhappy with the
behavior of another person. You refuse to tolerate it. You refuse to
compromise. Psychologists have determined that most stress and negativity comes
from attempting to live in a way that is not congruent with your highest
values. It is when your life is out of alignment, when you are doing and saying
one thing on the outside, but really feeling and believing something different
on the inside, that you feel most unhappy. When you decide to become an
individual of character and integrity, your first action will be to neutralize
or remove all difficult relationships from your life.
This doesnt mean that you have to go and hit somebody over the head with a
stick. It simply means that you honestly confront another person and tell them
that you are not happy. Tell them that you would like to reorganize this
relationship so that you feel more content and satisfied. If the other person
is not willing to make adjustments so that you can be happy, it should be clear
to you that you dont want to be in this relationship much longer anyway. The
second area of integrity has to do with your attitude and behavior toward
money. Casualness toward money brings casualties in your financial life. You
must be fastidious about your treatment of money, especially other peoples
money. You must guard your credit rating the same way you would guard your
honor. You must pay your bills punctually, or even early. You must keep your
promises with regard to your financial commitments.
The third area of integrity has to do with your commitments to others, especially
in your business, your work and your sales activities. Always keep your word.
Be a man or a woman of honor. If you say that you will do something, do it. If
you make a promise, keep it. If you make a commitment, fulfill it. Be known as
the kind of person that can be trusted absolutely, no matter what the
circumstances.
Your integrity is manifested in your willingness to adhere to the values you
hold most dear. Its easy to make promises and hard to keep them, but if you do,
every single act of integrity will make your character a little stronger. And
as you improve the quality and strength of your character, every other part of
your life will improve as well.
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